An Important Message

Recently a friend of ours, who practices natural healing, described his shock at learning that at least two-thirds of his patients did not want to get well.

After a while, he figured out the many benefits of sickness: lots of attention and sympathy, time off work, release from the expectations of others, freedom to choose when to participate – stuff like that.

On the one hand, this seems bizarre. On the other, it makes perfect sense.

I think it may explain why brides and grooms don’t seem interested in wedding coaching. After all, misery brings attention and sympathy. You may have to take time off work to get your wedding planning done. When you make a mistake, don’t look your best, or hurt someone’s feelings, they’ll understand because they know what you’re going through in the wedding vortex. If you don’t want to show up, you can just blame it on all of the many burdens of wedding planning.

You’ll probably never have this kind of opportunity again – until you end up in the hospital. But you’ll be wearing a different kind of gown then.

The price, however, could be your life. Not just in choosing sickness over health – but in choosing misery over joy. I’m not talking about your wedding, which can still be quite miserable; I’m talking about your marriage.

You see, when you get used to choosing misery instead of joy, you grow ever more attached to those things you get from your misery. Don’t fool yourself by thinking you’re going to turn it off on your honeymoon.

When we talk with wedding vendors about the coaching we do, the one comment they ALWAYS make is “Where were you when I got married??”